"We all like to think the world ends when we do. The truth is our acquaintances, our friends, and our loved ones all live on, and through them, so do we. It’s not about what you had, but what you gave. It’s not about how you looked, but how you lived. And it’s not just about being remembered. It’s about giving people a good reason to remember you."
#death
#loss
#grief
#family
#sisters
#quotes
#books
#Ghostgirl
#Tonya Hurley
"
There are a hundred things she has tried to chase away the things she won’t remember and that she can’t even let herself think about because that’s when the birds scream and the worms crawl and somewhere in her mind it’s always raining a slow and endless drizzle.
You will hear that she has left the country, that there was a gift she wanted you to have, but it is lost before it reaches you. Late one night the telephone will sign, and a voice that might be hers will say something that you cannot interpret before the connection crackles and is broken.
Several years later, from a taxi, you will see someone in a doorway who looks like her, but she will be gone by the time you persuade the driver to stop. You will never see her again.
Whenever it rains you will think of her.
"
"But nobody ever forgot anything, not really, though sometimes they pretended, when it suited them. Memories were permanent. Sorrowful ones remained sad even with the passing of time, yet happy ones could never be recreated - not with the same joy. Remembering bred its own peculiar sorrow. It seemed so unfair: that time should render both sadness and happiness into a source of pain."
#memories
#quotes
#death
#sorrow
#loss
#family
"All life includes loss. It’s taken me many, many years to learn to deal with that, and I don’t expect I’ll ever be fully resigned to it. But that doesn’t mean we have to turn away from the world, or stop striving for the best that we can do and be. We owe that much to ourselves, at least, and we deserve whatever measure of good may come of it."
#quotes
#loss
#death
#grief
#depression
"You cannot go around in grief and panic every day; people will not let you, they will coax you with tea and tell you to move on, bake cakes and paint walls. […] So what you do is you let them coax you. You bake the cake and paint the wall and smile; you buy a new freezer as if you now had a plan for the future. And secretly—in the early morning—you sew a pocket in your skin. At the hollow of your throat. So that every time you smile, or nod your head at a teacher meeting, or bend over to pick up a fallen spoon, it presses and pricks and stings and you know you’ve not moved on. You never even planned to."
#quotes
#death
#grief
#love
#loss
#family
#sister
#books
#andrew sean greer
#the story of a marriage
#reading
"I do not mourn the loss of my sister because she will always be with me, in my heart,” she says. “I am, however, rather annoyed that [she] has left me to suffer you lot alone. I do not see as well without her. I do not hear as well without her. I do not feel as well without her. I would be better off without a hand or a leg than without my sister. Then at least she would be here to mock my appearance and claim to be the pretty one for a change. We have all lost [her], but I have lost a part of myself as well."
#The Night Circus
#Erin Morgenstern
#books
#quotes
#sisters
#death
#family
#life
#love
#kelly
#loss
"When you were sick you worried because you could not give me something that you wanted to and thought I needed. You needn’t have worried. Just as I told you then there was no real need because I loved you in so many ways so much. And now it is clearly even more true — you can give me nothing now yet I love you so that you stand in my way of loving anyone else — but I want you to stand there. You, dead, are so much better than anyone else alive."
#kelly
#sisters
#grief
#death
#love
#marriage
#quotes
"There is no name for what I’m feeling. There is no description for it. To call it yearning would be like calling the ocean water. Whatever this thing is, it shoves you inside itself and you can’t measure its boundaries, because they go too far and you don’t have enough time. Or you move towards the boundaries and they move away.
There has been an earthquake in my life."
#quotes
#grief
#death
#depression
"One day, all the stars looking down at you will be me, saying I love you. When the wind blows in your face, it’s me, whispering I miss you. When the warmth of sunshine touches your skin, it’s me, embracing you. When it rains, it’ll be me saying I don’t have you by my side, and I’m lonely."
Why, Why Love?
#quotes
#asian drama
#tw drama
#death
#grief
#loss
"
you are not:
waiting on the corner
of cork and reuben street
the lanky girl with long black hair
flying through the main gate
on a deserted luas after
a reluctant czech inn night
or between the pages of
a beckett novel with a broken spine
"
